Personal growth - also known as change - is a odd thing. You may be motivated to change via internally or externally generated forces. Perhaps you don’t like the type of relationship you’re in or the person you are in a relationship with. Perhaps your current work, home, location or life-style no longer fits your values or what you want out of life. Perhaps you are the one who is asked to leave your relationship, home or work. Even change that is wonderful – winning the lottery – can result in profound challenge and a sense of disorientation.
Occasionally, change can seem organic, requiring minimum effort on your part. Mostly though, the change process requires a great amount of energy, intention, persistence, perseverance, a sense of humor and the capacity to move through real or perceived roadblocks. The other side of change can initially feel more than a tad surreal. You are not in your old way of being in the world anymore. In fact, your old way no longer exists, even if you wanted to return to it. Your new way of being in the world, however, doesn’t quite fit yet and some people in your life may even attempt to encourage you to return to your pre-change self. Although change can be both challenging and exhausting at times, you can't have it both ways. The good news is that ultimately change facilitates gain as well as loss. The other side of change is worth it and can actually be an amazing and wonderful experience.