Choose to Forgive
by Janet Shlaes, Ph.D.
“Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Forgiveness is a highly challenging and emotional undertaking. It’s so easy to forget that the act of forgiveness is both a choice and a gift that you give to yourself. Each time you choose to forgive, this choice releases you from a past hurt, injustice or trauma. The act of forgiveness requires letting go of something – fairness, disappointment, rage, sadness, perspective, desire, expectation, vision and/or hope. Forgiveness requires moving beyond what should have been to a place of accepting what is. This does not in any way propose that you should agree with, condone, take responsibility for or like the situation that calls for your forgiveness; objectively, contemptable things happen in this world that are out of your causality, control and understanding.
What you may not be aware of is that forgiveness is ultimately about choosing to be happy; it’s also about choosing to take back your personal power. The biggest misconception regarding forgiveness is that it’s a one-time endeavor, that you simply forgive and the offending injustice is over. Quite the contrary. Forgiveness is an ongoing process. You consciously choose to engage in forgiveness whenever the emotional charge of a past hurt, trauma or injustice invades your present world. As you intentionally choose to forgive the past, you can utilize your precious life force to move forward and build a gratifying future. Forgiveness is ultimately about freedom, focusing on what truly matters and stepping into the power of courage and strength.
Forgiveness is about choosing to be happy over being right. Which one will you choose?
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