I suggest embodying another and more radical version of regret – intentionally utilizing regret as a living presence and guide in our lives, rather than as something to be avoided at all costs. When utilized strategically, regret can be our greatest teacher, providing us with critical information regarding how to live a life that intentionally reflects our deepest and most cherished values. Being actively aware of regret in any area of our life can be an effective and efficient tool to keep us on track in terms of intentional living. This version of regret provides us with the opportunity to clean up any interpersonal messes that we inevitably make along our life path and make choices that honor what we hold most dear in life. Through embodying this version of regret, we provide ourselves with the opportunity to shed our false self and live through our authentic self.
It’s never too late to embrace an empowering version of regret, the version that challenges us to continually ask the question: Who am I being in my life? Fully embracing this question is both powerful and a bit scary at times in terms of personal accountability. I suggest that the inherent gifts of embodying this type of relationship with regret are worth it. I invite you to try it out and experience it for yourself.