Would you rather be right or happy? Forgiveness is about choosing to be happy; it’s a gift you give to yourself, a gift that releases you from the past. The act of forgiveness requires letting go of something – injustice, disappointment, rage, perspective, desire, expectation, vision and/or hope. Forgiveness requires moving beyond what should have been to a place of acceptance of what is. This does not in any way suggest that you should agree with, condone or like the action or situation that calls for your forgiveness; in this world, objectively dreadful things occasionally happen that are out of our causality, control and understanding.
Forgiveness is about taking back your power. The biggest misconception regarding forgiveness is that it’s a one-time endeavor – you simply forgive and the offending injustice is over. Quite the contrary. Forgiveness is an ongoing process. You choose to engage in the attitude and process of forgiveness when the emotional charge of a past injustice invades your present world. Unless you intentionally choose to forgive and let go of the past, you cannot truly move forward and your precious psychic energy will be utilized in keeping the past alive. Forgiveness is about freedom, focusing on what truly matters and stepping into the energy of courage and strength. According the Gandhi, “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Would you rather be right or happy? Forgiveness is about choosing to be happy. What will you choose?