I invite you to recall a time when you were in an argument with someone about something that both of you thought was critically important at the time. Each of you was strongly committed to your personal point of view, as well at to “being right.” Ultimately, your respective commitment to “being right” resulted in feeling disconnected, angry and frustrated. Perhaps, with a bit of time, wisdom and a sense of humor, you were able to get to the heart of the issue, which usually was not about what you were arguing about. It’s highly likely that the real issue at the causal or heart level was about wanting to feel more connected, respected and engaged in the relationship.
Think about it…….